A Smile of Insecurity

Throughout my life, I have always had one major insecurity. My teeth. Obviously, in my early ages I didn’t see it as a problem but once I began to get into my teenager years it hit me. What’s the word again? Ah yes, puberty. I would see people with perfect, white, straight teeth and be envious. It wouldn’t have bother me so much only that it seemed like everybody had perfect teeth, literally everyone! Maybe it’s a thing that gets fixed from an early age nowadays, I didn’t get that luxury unfortunately. They can smile without any fear of judgement or personal insecurity. I won’t lie, I’m jealous. It’s not that I don’t smile either, I do. But it doesn’t hide the fact that, in my mind, I don’t feel good doing it. I’m always aware. Always conscious. I always asked myself the same questions. Why can’t I have good teeth? Why can’t I smile without feeling insecure? Why haven’t my teeth been fixed yet? ย Usually I can deal with and overcome my insecurities. This though, this is not so easy.

I know to a lot of people it may not even seem like a bad thing, but everybody has an insecurity that really bugs them. No matter how big or small, it’s still important and people need to understand this. My insecurity may seem stupid and not important in reality, but it’s important to me and I want to take a step to change it. It will make me feel so much better and at the end of the day isn’t that what matters? Being happy and confident with yourself. I think so. I’ve known plenty of people with insecurities and it has led them down a path of depression and exiled them in doing even simple everyday things. Luckily, I haven’t gotten to that stage but I understand that it’s just as easy to fall into that stage if you let yourself. Different minds cope differently. Mine copes with the knowledge that it is something I can fix. That I have to look on the positive side. I’ve learnt to deal with my insecurity until a time comes when I can change it. Now is the time!

A smile is a very important feature. It shows emotions of happiness, and lights up a face. The photo below shows the smile I have become adjusted too. I don’t believe it’s bad as such, although it’s not a conventional smile in my mind. An essential smile shows teeth, something I don’t feel comfortable with. That grin can go down as quickly as it went up!. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking for your run of the mill celebrity smile. Just a smile that’s straight and pleasant to the eye. It will also light up my face and give me that boost of confidence I need.

 

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The smile I have become adjusted too
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Crooked, Crooked, Crooked……………

The main problem I have with my teeth is that they’re as crooked as a fish hook! As you can see from the photo, they’re far from ideal. Each tooth is going this way and that way, with the chance of a straight line being non-existent. On my two front teeth, their are two relatively big stains which standout. According to the dentist, they were caused by a build up of calcium as a baby. I always was fond of milk! If only my little baby mind knew, if only! I also have one canine tooth that sticks out, making me look like a vampire gone wrong. As for my bottom teeth, if anyone is looking for a wave to surf then contact me. ย I take care of my teeth, brushing twice a day but I just don’t feel confident when I look in the mirror and see this staring back at me. For as long as I can remember, my dentist has told me I need braces. I didn’t need a dentist to tell me that, but nevertheless here I am still braceless. Each demand was presented with a circumstance. A circumstance which led to me not getting braces. This happened a lot throughout my life. To make matters worse, my sister got braces. She now has that smile I longed for throughout my teenage years. I guess it made sense though, the only girl in the family. A princess must get her every desire!

Where does this leave me now? Taking matters into my own hands. I’m currently saving up for braces. The temporary job is going well and I should have something more permanent come college time. So it’s save, save, save until I have enough to get fitted. ย It shouldn’t take me too long more. I think before the end of this year I should be a self proclaimed “braceface”. I’ve waited long enough!

If you take anything away from this post, it’s that you have to find a way to feel comfortable with your insecurities. Find adjustments until the time comes that you can make a change. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to make the change. It’s going to make you happier in the long run. It wasn’t easy for me to even post pictures of my teeth, but I’ve allowed myself to understand the problem. I’m also not afraid to fix the problem. I know it will take time and a lot of money but I’m willing to work to get here.

Let me know your insecurities in the comments below and how you deal with them?

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40 thoughts on “A Smile of Insecurity

  1. I hope you get your braces, and that insecurity takes a ticket to never again land. I had the same problem with mine. Braces wouldn’t help. Mine came from too much antibiotics as a child dealing with chronic strep throat. In my twenties I had to have all of them removed and could never afford dentures. I still struggle with confidence always feeling that having no teeth was something everyone would notice and worried what they would think. To this day when I tell them I can’t eat this or that because I have no teeth, their response is usually one of shock and utter the proclaimed “Oh, I didn’t notice and I can’t tell.” I’m a bit weary if they say that out of kindness or if they really can’t notice. A confident and healthy smile is important. I hate hiding behind my hand! Someday I’ll have a huge smile with straight white teeth even if they are dentures. I really do wish you the best of luck and hope you get that smile you so deserve!

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    1. Thanks very much. I’m sure with hard work and time I’ll get them soon! It’s nice to know you can relate with me. That’s the thing, even if people don’t notice we still feel insecure because we know it’s there and in our minds we don’t feel comfortable. Hopefully you get that lovely smile in the near future too ๐Ÿ˜€

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  2. So as I was reading, I was expecting this yellow-stained snaggletoothed shark kind of smile. When I saw your picture I was definitely shocked. I’m not belittling your insecurity AT ALL, I would never do that. But just for your own peace of mind until you get them ‘fixed’ to others they look absolutely FINE. I wouldn’t even look twice. And judging by other comments, no one else would either. But I understand your insecurity and you should definitely get them done as that will make you happy. But until then, please relax. Nobody else sees a problem. Xx

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    1. Thanks for the comment. I understand that people don’t see it as a problem and that makes me feel better. But to me it is something that I have wanted to fix for a long time. As stupid as it may seem! It’s been in my brain so long too fix them that I feel like I have too now and it will make me happier so it’s a win win ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. I really relate to this post as I grew up with loads of insecurities about my appearance and always wanted to change things. What most people who grow up like this share is an overly negative perception of themselves. Your teeth are not that bad but I totally understand why you want to change them as who doesn’t want a perfectly straight smile? Braces might be expensive but they pose no risk to your health so I would say definitely go ahead and have them fitted if it is going to make you feel happier. If I judge by my own experience though if your problem with your appearance is rather deeper then after you have got your teeth fixed you may find there is something else about your appearance you are unhappy with.

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      2. I’m glad you can relate, it’s good to know I’m not alone with my insecurities! I agree, people tend to overlook all the positives they have with the smaller negatives. Everyone has said they aren’t bad which makes me feel better, but maybe it’s because i’ve told myself so much that i hate them that it’s hard for me to accept it. I’m in the process of saving but it may take me awhile ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it. This was a great comment!

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  3. Dean its how you feel and that is not stupid at all! I would love to tell you to smile from ear to ear smile and laugh and laugh and smile! Let it beam out of you! But I understand how insecurities work their way into your thoughts and weigh heavy even when you dont think they should they still just do. It was brave of you to share this post and although I agree with other comments your smile seems just fine to me but im a smile lover hahaa you have to do what will help you grow happier with your own self. i wish you luck!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. I couldn’t agree more! I understand it may seem like a small part when you think of the overall picture but I still need to complete it in order to finish ๐Ÿ˜„ and it will make me happy! Thanks very much though, I appreciate the comment!

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  4. Were such perfectionists. Even dentists aren’t perfect. I’m going now to one and I’ve been crying all night from anxiety as they can ruin your natural smile. With me, I find it hard to say no. My teeth are so sensitive.

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  5. I think you’re the ideal candidate for them. I just think they keep messing with mine, and my whole look keeps changing. And again, they don’t seem to understand my vision of what I want. At first they tried giving a Hollywood smile but I was like that isn’t natural, and now he tried grinding dips into my teeth. Oh well, at least it’s ‘unique’ but ugh the after taste of your teeth falling out. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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      1. Well sometimes you have to settle for unique vs perfect. I’d rather not go back again ๐Ÿ˜ฎ but I can smile better now. Going to see if I can find Cleo the flirty black cat up the road.

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    1. You understand the feeling well so. I think the problem is that it’s such an accessible feature to look at that it leads us to be more and more insecure of them. I’m happy to hear you’re dealing with it though ๐Ÿ˜„

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  6. You have a nice smile ๐Ÿ™‚ I know this feeling of looking at yourself and being insecure. What I realized is what we see as bad features the majority of the world doesn’t notice. We focus to much on our imperfections. I learned to love all my imperfections because that’s what makes me me. I don’t want to look perfect. I want to look like Vanessa. Love this post.

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    1. That’s very true, nobodies perfect and we have to accept the bad with the good! I think maybe I need to worry a bit less and concentrate on the things that make me me! Good advice, thanks very much โ˜บ๏ธ

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  7. First thing first…thank you for liking my new post. You look fine to me, at least they are your own teeth. If you could do the least and have the situation changed to the way that makes happy, do it. But if you have to spend a lot of money, or have to have some teeth extracted to make adjustment of space, you can think about if you want to do it or not. I had a girlfriend who had the nose job done. The surgery didn’t turn out well, she traded one problem with another. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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    1. Anytime, it was a good post โ˜บ๏ธ Yeah I understand, I know they aren’t in the worst of conditions but it will make me happy to get braces and straighten them up a bit! Money is the only problem now, and I don’t want anything to go wrong like your friend! Thanks for the comment

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  8. I agree that you are handsome as-is. I also understand insecurities from what may appear as a “mole hill” to others. As a toddler I fell and my bottom tooth went through my bottom lip. I have had a scar since. It is right there for everyone to see. I don’t wear makeup but I have always wanted to hide the scar under lipstick.
    Momma always told me it isn’t even noticeable. I see it so others can too. I finally just gave up on worrying if others could see it. I accepted it and admit that, at times, it is hardly visible.
    I like you as you are.

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    1. Thank you, that means a lot! I’m glad you know how I feel, it’s a small problem to others but a problem that niggles away at us nonetheless. So hiding/fixing it is something we long for! That’s really good, it’s encouraging to hear that! Thanks so much for this comment ๐Ÿ™‚

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  9. Insecurity.. It’s a little monster isn’t it… My partner has a similar smile and it took him a while to be okay with it. The fact that a fake teeth could ‘solve’ so much insecurity says it all.. Nice to get some inspiration from other blogs. I’m currently writing about 4 steps to get rid of that insecurity.

    Good post, keep it going ๐Ÿ™‚

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  10. Please don’t take me wrong, and I empathize with you but you writing about your insecurity is so light witted and funny. I am glad you could take the things so positively. I too have imperfect teeth, and also some other major problems that make me feel inferior and shy in common public.

    You said it rightly, ” everybody has an insecurity that really bugs them.”, because it is just to remind us that nothing, and absolutely nothing in this world is perfect, and that’s why we need to move toward absolute perfection.

    It is also very true that we are always stuck somewhere in our insecurities and it at times becomes hard to win over these, but this is all part of our value-system. For example, instead of understanding (and making your sub-conscious mind understand) the un-parallel “value” of good looks, education, physique, energy, IQ level, loving friends and family, your online readers who are also well wisher, etc. you are giving higher “value” and thus high importance to just one part – teeth and their looks. If you are focused on imperfection of teeth and that could happen only if you gave it higher value than other things in your life. In short, does that not simply mean you might have taken other things “taken for granted” ?

    Please don’t take me wrong that I am asking you to ignore it. No, I am not. And I am not even asking you to stop thinking about it on how to make it perfect looking. All I am asking you is to be the same “positive” Dean who has shown many people in dark, a new light to move in positive direction with positive outlook of life.

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    1. Don’t worry, I take no offense to your opinion and comment! It’s good that you disagree with what I wrote about and that you’re voicing your opinion! Obviously, I understanmd that it is a very minor insecuirity compared to others but maybe that’s the hidden meaning I’m trying to get across here. People, including myself, can concentrate on the smallest things in life to make us happy instead of looking at the bigger picture. I know that perfection is not possible, it would be strange for any one thing to be perfect as flaws are what make us human. I’m not looking to completely change the way I am as I’m quite happy with everything I inherited in life. However, it still does not change the fact that I will get braces and fix my teeth. It will make me happy and although that may come across as light witted, I’ll be happier. My positivity will never decrease! Thank you for this comment, I appreciate your view on it! It was nice to read a different view on this post.

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